Sunday, January 25, 2015

Bertenang setenang air di tasik..

Salam Isnin semua....

Sedar tak sedar, January dah hampir sampai ke penghujungnya. Masa sangat mencemburui kita dan cepat sangat berlalu. Jadi, apa yang kita dh achieve utk bulan pertama 2015? Jeng jeng jeng..Oh ye, ana sebelum masuk 2015 antara impian or wishes yang nak dicapai adalah tingkatkan KeSABARAN dan KeTENANGan..chewah...sebelum ni masa remaja gitu, tersangat la baran.Ouch!! not good ok, ada je yg boleh buat ana melenting n mengamok..so not good, kids please don't do this. Not a good habit after all. huhuhu....Slowly, for the past 10 years I manage to control my tamper and anger. Sekarang ni, bertekad nak menjadi seorang yg super duper COOL and Awesome..apakah cool nyer? hehehe...Pendek kata, panjang x berkata, ana nak jadi seorang Muslimah, Isteri, Ibu dan Sahabat yang sgt SABAR.

To begin with, I am having difficulty to "tenang'kan my little girl iaitu Miss IN yang suka mencabar kesabaran I and the whole family. As for myself too, agak sukar nak tenangkan diri bila deal dgn anak dara sorng ni...Her brother always says, Why can she listen? Why she always wins? Can we put her into time out for behaving badly? hehehe...amboi, MH bunyi mcm org tua ok..Suka ati lu je nak bg time out kat adik sendiri ye..hahaha...

Actually, she is a good girl but she has a very strong will characther in each everything she wants to do. Pendek kata, kalau nak pakai kasut pun boleh jadi isu la bila berdepan dgn Miss IN ni. Kita bagi dia pakai selipar, dia keluarkan kasut. N for sure, she will say "Tak Nak" before I can even finish the whole sentence..hohoho...other than using reverse psychology to entice her with our choices. The success rate will be 50-50. As usual, she wins and Me got stress and kokooo...hahaha...She is a witty girl. I should give her the freedom to choose. But in certain ways, I do give her the choice. But in some other ways, when its involving safety, I need to take charge as an adult. For instance, she hates it so much when we hold her hands in the public areas. 2 years old don't want to hold your hands and want to walk on her own. Roaming freely without any restriction? Scary kan??? Especially in Malaysia..in the BolehLand...A big NO there and end up A Drama Minggu Ini cap mak and anak in a shopping mall..

Even if we place her in her stroller and buckle her up, she manages to free herself. Headache! Jadi, I need to restraint  my anger and have inner peace to take control of the situation and eventually take charge of the super savvy Miss IN. Through reading from many sources. I put into practice these few steps which works wonderfully for me:

1. Stay Calm - try to use right breathing techniques.

2. Don't show facial discomfort or anger expression in front of her. Try 'hard' to smile and look cool ;)  

3. Ask her, what bothers her in the first place. Let her explains first.

4. Using calm and strict tone voice when you explain. Give her reasonable reason if you do not agree with her choice. No shouting and screaming from the parents.

5. If she insists, firmly stick to your decision.

6. If she starts her tantrums, I normally recite Al-Fatihah slowly to her while hugging her (but not to tight) until her anger subside. If she persists, last option is to bring her to toilet. N I take wudhu' together with her..If it outside the house, I will keep on hugging her until she is ok.

7. Last option is to remind her, she will get time out treatment if she fails to listen to the final reminder (depends on the surroundings too).

8. Once the drama subsides and she is calm, time to explain it to her on her behaviors and the reasoning behind the act.

Fuhh....in the beginning, it was really hard for me to practice those steps. It took a hell of a lot of patience for me to handle the 'drama'. Alhamdulillah...slowly, she knows that that she is not the little boss anymore.. MH also happier nowadays because he got the deserved attention which has always been plundered by his sweet little sister.

Ok la... saje tepek gambo kami ber3 utk semua....



Us at MAEPS, MAHA 2014... feeling ala2 mcm kat tepi pantai. Walhal tengah jalan...akekeke...

Thursday, January 22, 2015

My Tepung Gomak

Salam semua.....
 
Harap semua sihat n ceria as always.. Happy Jumaat ye semua.....
 
Today nak share my Cik IN punya obsession if she finds one.. what to comment, anak dara sorng ni.... in the mean time, semua ni kena sorok somewhere utk mengelakkan pembaziran berlaku selain accident..heheheh...sampai ada masa, kat mana letak pun dh tak tahu, forgetful me!

 
Heyaaaa........look mama...what have I done..

 
high 5 me please, coz I managed to make myself fairer!!
 
as usual, after the make up session, your beloved mama has to clean up all the mess..haissh....

Monday, January 5, 2015

2015 sudah....

Assalamualaikum dan salam sejahtera semua...

Hampir sebulan juga, saya x mencoretkan apa-apa penulisan dalam blog ni. Bulan December 2014, for me banyak meninggalkan kesan yg mendalam dalam hati dan sanubari hingga ke lubuk hati. Just wanna jote down two occasions that truly made me thinking on the oneself existence in this world.

1. Maria Zain...

Upon hearing the news on the 28th December, 2014, I was reeling back onto my Uniten days. Back then when she was my study mate, group mate and my bowling partner for Uniten. So many things came into my mind. It took me one whole day to digest the news and Redha that she was no longer with us but she was called back by Our Mighty Creator as her time was up. Though, we had not had a chance to meet physically since her wedding. But we were always had our conversations done in FB. Thanks to the technology the ukhwah can be maintained and continued. I am impressed with her strong- willed to be a fulltime housewife and turned down the high salary pays to look after her family. Before she came to the UK, we had conversations almost everyday as she was preparing her family for the new journey there. She was pregnant with the No. 5 during that time. She loved to call her kids using number. Hehehe...easier. Said her.

In the UK, she loved to update her kids' activities in FB, which was against her earlier principles of public exposure through FB. Maria herself was a photo shy. Almost everyday, she updated her kids' photo and their antics. Luckily she did that. She had so many things in her plate and she made it looked effortlessly. Being a wife, a mother of 5 and international freelance author. She homeschooled all of her kids!! 

She is no longer with us. But her writings will stay forever. May Allah (SWT) count her writings as an on-going charity of beneficial knowledge and have mercy on her, accept her good deeds and grant her the highest ranks of Jannah. Ameen. Al- Fatihah..

Tribute to Maria Zain 1, Tribute to Maria Zain 2
 
2. Flood in Pantai Timur....

I cant help myself from crying when I looked at the aftermath of the flood. May Allah show His Mercy to us...Innalillah....


Saturday, December 6, 2014

I am soooooooo in love


I am not good with words....but one thing for sure, I am truly in love with this gentleman. He is my consultant, partner in jalan2 cari makan, my wrestling partner...and for sure he is my BFFL ; best friend for life!.. Thank you Allah for sending me the Mr. Right..

Today is your special day, a year wiser and the number increases. Please stay cool and fun like the 1st time we met. Happy birthday Mr. Badril!! Ich liebe dich so sehr....

Thursday, November 6, 2014

positive vs negative

Tarik nafas dalam-dalam hembus.....tarik lagi hembus...kasi keluar semua rasa amarah..geram tu semua...al -kisah, di suatu tempat berjumpa dgn hamba Allah ini..Yang I leh ckp... x sedar dek untung.. at if, segala masalah dia, masalah tahap level dunia...sampaikan ada kawan-kawan dia yg juga ditimpa musibah lagi teruk pun. Pada dia... masalah dia lah terberat..ini I category kan sebagai problems competition..hehehe..new term ok...korang ada pernah jumpa tak set-set manusia macam ni?

Apa yg korang buat ye? Blah je dr org2 mcm ni? or cakap je terus depan muka?

Moga I diberikan kesabaran yg tinggi...Ameeeeen....

Wednesday, October 29, 2014

I survived 2 1/2 months....

Tik tok tik tok.....October almost gone and November is just around the corner to step in. Phewww....I pula sedang berkira-kira x lama lagi masa utk cross the continents and say Hi to an equatorial climate...Walla....yup I had survived the test 2 1/2 months away from the beloved ones. Time flies when you need to juggle and meet up with the deadlines! Plus, you have a bunch of great friends...

Previous post, I ada cakap nak share I punya tips bagaimana nak melalui detik2 'berseorangan' ini..I bet that there are supermoms who experience similar situation like mine too. Tapi ini kaedah-kaedah yang 'berjaya' membuatkan I rasa ok:

1. Skyping everyday...hehehehe....housemates and friends semua dah acknowledge that between 1-2.30 pm is my skyping time with the loved ones...semenjak jam moved 1 hour backward, my skyping hours are between 12.00- 1.30pm.

2. Stay positive. Mind over body.....bunyi mcm warrior laa sgt kan. Tapi perlu kot...aheeemmm...

3. Shopping...haaa ini bukan shopping diri sendiri sgt. Asal shopping je, barang diorng...asal barang diorng je I shopping...jadi beg tu dah penuh dgn brg2 diorng..dari Optimus Prime, Elmo sampai laa tiang gol pun I bawa balik!!

4. Doa..dan doa...supaya Allah berikan kekuatan mental dan fizikal....

5. Appreciation. Always appreciate what your other half did for you and your kids...He is my hero :)

6. Just enjoy your time......me time......

7. Avoid the guilty feelings because you are not there....payah bab ni...bukan nak cakap x perlu rasa bersalah..tapi perlu focus apa yg perlu dilakukan..at e end of the day, apa yg I buat adalah utk diorng juga (ini mcm kata-kata nak bagi sedap hati jugak sebenarnya..supaya tak terjeremus dalam lembah emosi..hohoho)..
Dilema yang ramai ibu2 juga hadapi...situasi je berbeza...cikgu-cikgu yg PJJ contohnya...or ibu2 yang terpaksa bekerja outstation berbulan2 demi mencari rezeki...cuma in my case, in need to finish what I have started...huhuhu...Ameen...

Oraits, uols.....till then.....,